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Why It Makes More Sense to Stay True to Yourself Than to Please Others

Being yourself is the most important thing you can do for yourself. It brings a feeling of satisfaction.

Mike Flache
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Every person is unique, and that’s a good thing. There is an invaluable treasure in this diversity. But sometimes, it can be a challenge to live this uniqueness authentically.

I find it particularly sad when people are aware of their inner core and still make decisions against themselves. Often to “please” other people.

This behavior occurs in all walks of life — from young to old, from man to woman, and from the humble worker to the eccentric multi-millionaire, to use the cliche 😉

I committed this stupidity and ended up in a marriage that was doomed from the start. On the one hand, I thought the woman was great back then. On the other hand, my instincts told me on the first date that we weren’t meant for each other.

Unfortunately, I didn’t listen to my inner voice back then. Well, we all make mistakes. That’s part of life. The important thing is to accept them and learn from them.

Being yourself is a journey

Trying to please others can cause a lot of stress and anxiety and can be very tiring. We may end up feeling unfulfilled because we weren’t true to ourselves.

It is important to understand that everyone has their own opinion and you cannot please everyone. When we try to please others, we may lose ourselves in the process.

Being yourself is a journey that requires continuous effort to ensure that we always remain true to ourselves. I know that sounds anything but tempting. Just ask yourself what is more strenuous in the long run: actually taking this path to yourself or never finding yourself.

So if you want to go further (or in this case, read further), I’ve put together some tips that can help you be yourself and live a fulfilling life:

1. Accept yourself

Accepting yourself is the first step to being yourself. It is important to understand that you are unique and special in your way. Accept your flaws and imperfections and focus on your strengths. Remember, no one is perfect and that is what makes us human.

2. Find your values and beliefs

It is important to find your values and beliefs. Because they shape your identity and help you make decisions. When you stay true to your values and beliefs, you are more likely to make decisions that align with your goals and aspirations.

3. Set boundaries

Setting boundaries is an important aspect of being yourself. It’s about protecting yourself from things that don’t align with your values and beliefs. Setting boundaries helps you maintain a healthy balance between individual freedom and societal norms, e.g. B. your private and professional life.

4. Surround yourself with positivity

Surrounding yourself with positivity is essential to being yourself. You must surround yourself with people who accept and value you for who you are. This will help you form deeper connections with people who share similar values and interests.

5. Take personal responsibility

Self-responsibility is important for your general well-being. Taking care of yourself helps you stay true to yourself. Above all, take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. This includes getting enough sleep, healthy eating, exercise, and activities that you enjoy.

Final thought

When you are yourself, you can live a fulfilling life. You will be happier, more relaxed and develop better relationships with other people. So accept who you are and be proud of it.

“At the end of life, what ultimately matters is how authentically and happily we lived. What could be better if this satisfaction can be seen in every single wrinkle.”

Stay strong!

Mike Flache

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Cover image: Danie Franco on Unsplash

Disclaimer: The information provided in this post is solely the author’s opinion and not life, business, or investment advice — it is provided for educational purposes only. By using this, you agree that the information does not constitute any life, business, investment, or financial instructions. Do conduct your own research and reach out to life coaches, business or financial advisors before making any life, business, or investment decisions.
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